Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Question time

I got this in my comments the other day and feel like I want to give a fair explanation:

Question
Anonymous said...
she never answers your comments or questions either here or on facebook, you losers ... that's how great she is. it's nauseating.
August 5, 2011 3:01 PM

Answer
@Anonymous: That's not true. I answer every now and then :(
The next day I always read through the comments from the day before. I would like to answer every comment and mail I get, but I am very sorry - I cannot :(
I get over 200 mails and comments every day, I blog and works with other things and I have 3 kids that want's mummys attention as well. I try to be humble and answer when I can, but I'm sorry to say I failed...
I can but say I will continue trying and perhaps say "Thank's" a bit more often since many are sweet taking their time to leave me comments.

Thank you everyone for leaving me cute comments, interesting questions and telling me to shape up (I appreciate this too).
One more thing: I think there is always two ways of saying the same thing.
Instead of insulting this blogs followers (people who have done you no harm) and me you could just have rephrased it to:
"Adora, I feel like you never answer any comments here or on Facebook. How come? A bit more feedback to your readers would be welcome."
This still makes your point, but sounds a bit nicer.
Always try to think about how you say things (this lesson I tell my kids every week). Try to be humble, since you know nothing about this person. I could just have lost someone close to me, I might have a disease myself, perhaps I suffer from narcolepsy or I killed someone and ponders about that all days being afraid the coppers will knock on my door with some cold steel to put on my wrists. And I do not mean the stylish kinds that's called bracelets...
kl.

32 comments:

  1. SeiraAugust 9, 2011 at 11:40 PM

    Don't worry Adora, the first thing in your life are your kids, your husband and your family. You have a work, a hobby, and other things. I love to know what happen in your live and I think you share it to us expecting nothing, just a nice feeling from everywhere. Take care of haters and stay cool as always, my vampy :). And sorry my english... again :(.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Glitterish AllsortsAugust 10, 2011 at 12:03 AM

    You're totally right about how people should think first about how they word their comments. Its one thing when people are giving constructive criticism but it's another to just be mean and hurt feelings.

    XX

    ReplyDelete
  3. Laura von KleistAugust 10, 2011 at 12:12 AM

    I have to say that´s nmot true, as you answered my post on facebook, wich i really appreciate :)
    Just because some people are pissed off...you shouldn´t worry. Those who know you have tree kids, a husband, and some great work to do, won´t complain because of some late-read messages ;)

    ReplyDelete
  4. DodoAugust 10, 2011 at 12:18 AM

    Great answer! I find it a bit egoistic from that anonimous commenter to say since in a way he/she is claiming your attention while this blog (and the other things you do) should and are an addition to your life and not your complete life itself! You already share so much personal stuff, what more should we want from you? I love reading your day to day stuff and when I comment it's not because I need a comment back.

    ReplyDelete
  5. AnneyAugust 10, 2011 at 12:25 AM

    Aww, I feel bad you had to explain yourself at all. I'm a mom and wife so I never had to think why you might not respond to peoples comments.. especially since you have so many people that follow your blog. I can guess just by how often you blog that you appreciate your readers.

    I agree everyone should be more thoughtful. The interent is sworming with people acting their UGLYIEST. Thank goodness people don't talk in such a manner in real life... for the most part.

    I LOVE that poster/thingy you added at the top about being a bitch.. lol!! I've got to use that :)

    ReplyDelete
  6. AnneyAugust 10, 2011 at 12:29 AM

    I'd like to add that I'm not even a person that is interested or even close to be considered "goth" but I like following your blog because of how interesting and sincere you come across.

    ReplyDelete
  7. LuxxAugust 10, 2011 at 12:35 AM

    People can be so rude and thoughtless. For someone who reads your blog, you would think that person would be smart enough to know how busy you probably are.
    Also, I know for a fact that you do try and respond. I once wrote to you on YouTube and I got a very lovely response! Adora, you are very sweet and I'm sure you try your best, and that's all you can do.

    ReplyDelete
  8. imma_helicopterAugust 10, 2011 at 12:44 AM

    Wowwww, people are ignorantly stupid. Pretty much, what everyone has said up to this point is right. But, also, you shouldn't have to explain yourself to people like this. You're real fans understand that you are busy with that thing we call life.

    ReplyDelete
  9. imma_helicopterAugust 10, 2011 at 12:44 AM

    Your***

    ReplyDelete
  10. AnonymousAugust 10, 2011 at 12:56 AM

    WOW! I can't believe someone actually had the audacity to post that comment!!! You're a Mom and career woman, a wife, an artist, a daughter, a sister, a rock star, and a friend! Sheeze, you do tons and tons of stuff!!! You are just too busy in real time and in real life to answer every single one of us. If I were you I would rather bake all those yummy cakes for my daughter's birthday, too! THAT'S what's important.

    Adora, you are truly an inspiration. Your makeup and outfits inspire me to make the time in the mornings to "doll up" ... and your family life and artistic career(s) remind me that it truly is possible to have it all. You keep being you! And thanks for doing all that you do!

    HUGS from NYC!

    ReplyDelete
  11. HamiaahKAugust 10, 2011 at 2:14 AM

    haha that was soooo funny is simple! you have a REAL LIFE and we are just having fun reading when we can and when you can obviously there are so many persons that just don´t understand. don´t worry adora you are giving us a great answer&attention every time you post something interesting oof your life ´cause is not so common, yesterday i show your blog to my mom and she said that your kids are really cute! just smile :D

    ReplyDelete
  12. AnonymousAugust 10, 2011 at 2:15 AM

    I have a little request now that you mention it...I am not looking for a response or anything but I would really, really like to hear more of your music choices Adora. I remember when you posted about Covenant and really like them. I think that would be so kick ass if you did a tune of the week or month or something.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Dietrich Von WittelsbachAugust 10, 2011 at 2:49 AM

    Just want to say thank you Adora, you are an inspiration to a lot of people, keeping up with the blog and messages on facebook. all the while raising three kids, having a healthy social life and 13 years of marriage.

    ReplyDelete
  14. jenni bAugust 10, 2011 at 3:41 AM

    I cannot believe someone would be so rude. I follow your blog for fashion, make up and artistic inspiration and truly I am glad that you share your life and escipades with us. You have so much going on I don't see how one would expect you to personally answer 200 comments a day. Forget the few people who have to "rain on the parade". You are an amazing woman. I don't believe you neglect your followers at all.

    ReplyDelete
  15. AnonymousAugust 10, 2011 at 5:16 AM

    I know you read all your comments Adora! You're also a very busy mom and business entrepreneur. But in reading this blog as long as I have, I know you reply to some things. But most of what we send you is not so much questions but simply comments and encouragement; stuff that is a blessing to read but doesn't necessarily require a response. You shouldn't listen to the sore people who think they deserve something more than what they're entitled to.

    ReplyDelete
  16. HenriettaAugust 10, 2011 at 6:55 AM

    Bra sagt! Bara för att du bloggar är du inte allmängods för alla. Men det finns alltid människor som vill ha mer än vad man är villig att ge.
    Hoppas ni får en trevlig festival!

    //Henrietta

    ReplyDelete
  17. AnonymousAugust 10, 2011 at 6:58 AM

    of course adora cant answer all of our comments thats completely undertandable, I agree with the music thing I feel in love with And one the moment i hear them on one of your videos, youre awesome :) and I admire you

    ReplyDelete
  18. SugarRatAugust 10, 2011 at 7:31 AM

    WE all readers Should be just THANKFUL that you are WILLING to share any of your life!! You could have chosen not to, you could have chosen to be a different kind of person than what you are. But in any case you are here, sharing your life with us, being a mom, wife, artist, model, and all that how could we even ASK anything more than what you give us? Hahaha you could have hired apersonal assistance to deal with your blog, answer every comment and al that. HOW ABOUT THAT? Thank you Adora for being with us IN PERSON! Doing every day your Best! Stay this way no matter what people say! Because we will love you no matter what!! Now you just give us the time you see appropriate and we will humbly thank you for everything.

    ReplyDelete
  19. VeronikaAugust 10, 2011 at 9:59 AM

    Bra sagt! Jag tycker det är en självklarhet att inte förvänta sig svar när man kommenterar eller skriver till någon kändis/stor person, du har ju fullt upp!
    I alla fall, jag önskar att du kunde lägga upp lite instruktioner på hur man syr olika kläder, t.ex blusen med hjärtat på? tack på förhand, mvh

    ReplyDelete
  20. BrookeAugust 10, 2011 at 10:02 AM

    Thats incredibly rude. Most people realize you're loved by many and get tons of comments and messages per day. To complain about not getting a response is just, ridiculous. No human being can respond to that many people. And I know for a FACT you do reply to things, because I've been lucky enough to have you do it for me a few times.

    Let me shove that down your throat, Mr. or Mrs. anonymous.

    Sorry Adora. xD <3

    ReplyDelete
  21. NoEMiAugust 10, 2011 at 10:17 AM

    I will never understand people who leaves comment like that. Don't he simply remain apart and close the page? Anyway...Great answer Adora (:

    ReplyDelete
  22. SarahAugust 10, 2011 at 10:35 AM

    I just want to say that it's a bit silly of a anonymous person yo just drop by and tell everybody that there stupid like that. And for the not answering EVERY question and comment, I mean... why should you have to? A lot of the questions are the same over and over again and if the people asking would just check the blog a bit they would probably find the answers there looking for anyway! :) Unfortunately on blogspot.com you can't really have categories, otherwise it would be easier for people to find what there looking for. If it's random about you, your family life, baking, clothing, modelling, festivals, diet, home styling, cats or what ever your categories would be! :)

    Maybe a FAQ-section in the blog would be a good alternative? Easy to find, somewhere in the side-panel! :)

    /Sarah

    ReplyDelete
  23. AnonymousAugust 10, 2011 at 2:02 PM

    I remember the first time I wrote to you in this blog and you answered me in mmm 1 hour? xD soo don't worry, you tell us so many things!!! I think it's the opposite, maybe WE don't "tell you" enough :)

    ReplyDelete
  24. HeatherfaceAugust 10, 2011 at 3:28 PM

    You do too comment, you just don't comment to every single person and whoever said that obviously took it personally. Don't feel bad, it's not your fault!

    ReplyDelete
  25. AnonymousAugust 10, 2011 at 4:20 PM

    @Nanaa Osaki: Adora answers every comment she get. She had answered me a LOT OF TIMESS YOUU IDIOT ANONIMOUSS

    ReplyDelete
  26. Emilie LouAugust 10, 2011 at 4:53 PM

    Thank you Adora... I read this comment and think it was for me but don't find the words to answer at this moment :/
    You have found them for me...
    and it's true you answer when you can ;) kisses

    ReplyDelete
  27. LonsdalegirlAugust 10, 2011 at 5:43 PM

    For you:
    http://lonsdalegirl.blogspot.com/2011/08/adora-batbrat.html

    You are amazing!

    ReplyDelete
  28. Bloody-VampireAugust 10, 2011 at 7:21 PM

    from Mother tu mother!

    I agree with you! The best answer i have ever read!

    Lovely greetings from Germany

    ReplyDelete
  29. ChloeAugust 11, 2011 at 5:30 PM

    Adora, you are a darling and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone!

    ReplyDelete
  30. PsycharaAugust 13, 2011 at 6:34 PM

    The girl, or guy, is just a yealous bitch.
    You have so many fans and friends and I bet they understand it if you don't say "thanks" to every compliment you get, but we know you read and appreciate it anyway ;)

    ReplyDelete
  31. Ethereal is a real witchAugust 27, 2011 at 5:10 PM

    Ignore the naysayers. We live vicariously through you. You're one crazy lady! Luv that!

    ReplyDelete
  32. Desire_Of_DestructionDecember 12, 2011 at 10:47 AM

    Take care of your kids and husband and believe me when we miss you we can re-visit your older posts. You already are a superwoman managing all the things you do. And do not bother answering those "I-want-attention-badly" comments. If she could be in your place, she would have commited suicide in the first minute I tell you! Some people just stay in frond of a screen and talk all day, while others have a life. Guess which one you are...

    ReplyDelete